This entry is about things interesting read and of course, curious. I really love the thoughts of those adopted children and "grown up" they want to express their feelings. I'd like to share the word of cache (surfer adopted)
making Every story has three parts, the abandoned child, the birth mother, usually alone, the father does not usually appear in history-and the adoptive parents. We are all united, anonymously, the administration, sometimes in an absolutely legal (increasingly) sometimes with loopholes, if not with absolute illegality. Three players
unhappy before adoption. The child is alone, abandoned, the biological mother has a problem which is beyond him, above his son, who instead of being a blessing is a burden too heavy for his shoulders, and the adoptive parents generally turn to adoption as only way to be parents. There are nuances in each of these roles, there are degrees of desperation, of abandonment, of loneliness.
After adoption, all are better than in previous times, the child has a family to receive care, love, education, media. The biological mother on with her life without the burden of a child and, more importantly, without the trauma of being mowed his life with an abortion. The adoptive parents become at last! fathers, though aware that their parenting will be more difficult, more challenged, more complicated, in general, that biological parenthood.
not perfect. Few things in life are even more ideal that we face. But it's better than the alternatives: abortion, abuse and family instability semi-abandonment by a mother who can not (or will not, do not idealize all birth mothers) to raise his son, eternally frustrated by couples unable to conceive a child.
All we're at it we realize that our lives are not perfect, are not like the choice we probably would have left if we define each aspect of our lives. So what? It is our history, we have, is we have to dump all our love.
And, interestingly, we look around and see people happier than us, and most parents love their children or other children love their parents, or worse education, no less baby ... I even dare say it worse the trauma of the woman who gave life to his son that he gave it and also gave them a life of some parents.
're not perfect, Are men, as we will be perfect!. Live, laugh, cry, get excited, like everyone else. Analyze more our interior, our parent-child relationships, others. That makes us, but not us-we are stronger than others. We are here because we want because we want.
children also, I know few stories of adopted children who, upon reaching the age of majority have been "abandoned" their adoptive parents. And they are free to do so, like everyone else. But those links that nature gave us are stronger because we have given to us, we have spoiled, we have worked. Let us accept our history
with humility, aware of our difficulties and enjoy life. It is brief and, as I said Santa Teresa, "a bad night in a bad inn." Luckily we have each other to enjoy it as much as possible.
I love the pragmatism and as explained by the surfer.
To finish this entry and as a reminder that adoptees can become brighter, and have much to give, I attached a small list of characters that were already adopted a few years ago, and I think if they had not had that new imposed life, his life would have been quite different. (Leaving aside religious, racial, political, ethical, cultural, etc ...)
Jesus, adopted by Joseph, Nicole Richie, actress, Aristotle, Greek philosopher, Octavian Augustus, first Roman emperor adopted by Julius Caesar, Charles Dickens, writer of the Christmas song, Dave Thomas, founder of Wendy's, Eric Dickerson, athlete, Ingrid Bergman, actress, Jesse Jackson, minister candidate for the presidency USA, Alexander the Great, King of Macedonia, John Lennon, musician of The Beatles, Leo Colstoy, writer, Louisa May Alcota, writer (Little Women, Little Men), Mark Twain, author (Tom Sawyer), Melissa Gilbert, actress (La Casita in Padrera), Michael Reagan, dancer, Moses, adopted by the princess Egypt, Nancy Reagan, first lady of USA, Nat King Cole, singer, Nelson Mandela, Africa's first black president, President Gerald Ford, adopted by his stepfather, President William Clinton, adopted by his stepfather, Priscilla Presley, actress (former wife Elvis Presley), Richard Burton, actor, Sarah Gilbert, actress.
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