I have no other title to start this post because I believe that what happened today, reconfirm that the road to reach our children and sometimes becomes for some of us, a journey filled with rocks and obstacles. A few weeks ago we reported that there were many chances that at the end of this month we traveled to our small. What greater joy! Finally the day came! between nerves and laughter made the preparation of briefing trip to the psychologist, we readjusted at work, and did almost all plans and preparations that are needed for this wonderful occasion ... but how could it be otherwise, and because we so used to the obstacles, the story has not ended ... now tell us they do not travel yet, that bureaucratic problems of the Vietnamese authorities and to the proximity of their national holiday of Tet (*) in which the country is paralyzed This conclusion is not recommended travel the risk posed by lengthening the stay there without being able to solve anything. We have to wait, wait, and continue to wait a month or ... how much?
If the adoptive parents learn something is to be patient, very patient, extremely patient, it seems that our patient had no limits, is a prerequisite in order to become a foster parent. If the "approval ratings" to evaluate our patient had no instrument that could measure it.
During this time I have resisted, simply because of superstition, to buy clothes for my son (although if he accepted that other friends have generously given me) the other day with Alex and full of enthusiasm for the next meeting with our small, we decided to buy his first piece, was a "anorac" precious with his scarf and all, we decided to buy animated by the last days of snow and cold that we had endured. Today I realized that I must return it or give it to another child, because the size is for a 1 year, and probably when my child is not able to enjoy it here because the weather was not for this type of garment coat.
I know I will buy other coats and other garments, and I am not sad about it myself, but with this anecdote, I reveal tremendous ambivalence and uncertainty in which we move most of the time we want to adopt a child. I know and am well aware that these are the rules, accept them and accept them at the time, but that does not mean that feelings of rebellion, anger and sadness at times brought out in times like these (which unfortunately many ) and the shadows of concern about what may happen yet to emerge.
just wanted to share with you who follow us and we want to, developments in this path of light and shadows that walk for almost 3 years. Thanks for being there.
(*) The Tet (Tet Nguyen Dan) is the most important holiday year for the Vietnamese Lunar New Year which is equivalent to Christmas, New Year and Birthday all together. The Tet Festival begins the week before the Lunar New Year is celebrated during the first 7 days of the first full moon. This year begins on 13 February.
If the adoptive parents learn something is to be patient, very patient, extremely patient, it seems that our patient had no limits, is a prerequisite in order to become a foster parent. If the "approval ratings" to evaluate our patient had no instrument that could measure it.
During this time I have resisted, simply because of superstition, to buy clothes for my son (although if he accepted that other friends have generously given me) the other day with Alex and full of enthusiasm for the next meeting with our small, we decided to buy his first piece, was a "anorac" precious with his scarf and all, we decided to buy animated by the last days of snow and cold that we had endured. Today I realized that I must return it or give it to another child, because the size is for a 1 year, and probably when my child is not able to enjoy it here because the weather was not for this type of garment coat.
I know I will buy other coats and other garments, and I am not sad about it myself, but with this anecdote, I reveal tremendous ambivalence and uncertainty in which we move most of the time we want to adopt a child. I know and am well aware that these are the rules, accept them and accept them at the time, but that does not mean that feelings of rebellion, anger and sadness at times brought out in times like these (which unfortunately many ) and the shadows of concern about what may happen yet to emerge.
just wanted to share with you who follow us and we want to, developments in this path of light and shadows that walk for almost 3 years. Thanks for being there.
(*) The Tet (Tet Nguyen Dan) is the most important holiday year for the Vietnamese Lunar New Year which is equivalent to Christmas, New Year and Birthday all together. The Tet Festival begins the week before the Lunar New Year is celebrated during the first 7 days of the first full moon. This year begins on 13 February.
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